Category Archives: cancer

“TIME AND TIDE WAITS FOR NO MAN”.

How many times over the years have patients – not infrequently shaken to the marrow by their diagnosis and its implications – reinforced the very point so feelingly made by Dorothy. As another patient put it to me, “In the … Continue reading

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“TIME AND TIDE WAITS FOR NO MAN! Continued from previous.)

Happily, what I have written in these blogs about the ever-increasing percentage of cure or control over malignant diseases is no exaggeration. Yet, believe it or not, there are occasions when this welcome and increasing divide and contrast between – … Continue reading

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POSTSCRIPT: A case of help from ‘beyond’?.

It occurs to me that additional help and encouragement may well be forthcoming, simply from the knowledge and awareness that those who genuinely try to provide support and comfort in difficult moments, however faultily and inadequately, do themselves often receive … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?” Cont’d from previous blog).

In keeping with our analogy, ships on this as on almost every sea tend to gather into Flotilla and, in turn, into Fleets and indeed, Navies. In human terms, we bond and gather together in marriage and families – nuclea … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?” Cont’d from previous blog).

From childhood on and especially following the loss of my dear sisters, I have tended to employ a simple analogy which likens the body to a ship and the spirit or soul to its captain and pilot. (I have already … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?” Cont’d from previous blog).

In days gone by, I have spoken to a number of people who, at some time of serious illness or accident, have undergone a “near death” experience. One ensuing characteristic, which they all appear to possess in common and which … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?” Cont’d from previous blog).

Not infrequently, patients who are hospitalized or in a hospice at this time, ‘fasten on’ to someone of their choosing, not uncommonly from outwith the family and with whom they feel at ease to talk. It might be a doctor, … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?”  Cont’d from prev. blog)

“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?”  Cont’d from prev. blog) “My problem at present is coping with feelings about my family. I just don’t want to leave them. I look at Marianne (his wife) when she is not looking and … Continue reading

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“O DEATH, WHERE IS THY STING…?” (Cont’d from previous blog.)

  As 0nce again I glance through the main points of this correspondence, I am aware of its tendency throughout to focus on and seek to encourage an up-beat approach (in the very best sense the use of that phrase). My … Continue reading

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